from charlott's blog

"If you have to be the aggressor, if you have to pursue, if you have to do the asking out, nine times out of ten, he's just not that into you.

An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid of "ruining the friendship".

Men don't forget how much they like you. So put down the phone.

What you should see is you being treated so well that no phone antics will be necessary. You'll be too busy being adored.

If he's not calling you, it's because you're not on his mind.

Don't be with someone who doesn't do what they say they're going to do.

"Busy" is another word for "asshole". "Asshole" is another word for the guy you're dating.

Better than nothing is not good enough for you.

There's a guy out there who will want to tell everyone that he's your boyfriend. Quit goofing around and go find him.

Your lost self-esteem may take longer to find than a new boyfriend, so prioritize accordingly.

He's just not that into you if he's having sex with someone else.

If you are in a mutually established monogamous relationship, then when someone cheats on you, they have decided to blatantly disrespect a very important decision you two made together. They've chosen to do this without your knowledge, thereby adding lies and secrecy to your relationship.

Your only responsibility in someone else's lapse in judgement is to yourself.

Ladies, don't let your desire to be loved and feel affection cloud your judgement.

If he wants to see you, talk to you, have sex with you, etc., when he's inebriated, it ain't love- it's sport.

Don't spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you.

If you don't feel like you're rushing, why are you waiting?

Breaking up means not seeing them again. It may be tempting to forget this pearl of wisdom, but just remember, it's still called breakup sex.

Cut him off. Let him miss you.

Unless he's all yours, he's still hers.

Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.

And lastly...

You already have one asshole... You don't need another."